stalking 101

(nut)case: you're in the mood for some ice-breakin,' bubblegum-schoolgirl rush and take an interest in someone you don't know very well.

instinctive goal: you want to get to know him better...without him knowing, of course.

procedure:
1. ask around...but casually. it's a friendster world--most likely, you and he are connected by common acquaintances, from the first up to the umpth degree. easiest way to gather information is to ask someone whom you both already know--the person who introduced you to him. if you don't want that common friend to suspect that you have a thing for the guy, the info "fishing" has to be as casual as possible--find the right opportunity so as to make your questions seem natural and within-the-context-of-the-conversation (that's what "segues" are for, but this should come with the right just-curious/idly asking tone of voice and facial expression). but if you're willing to take that common friend into your confidence then the info-fishing need not be that hard...just make sure that the person you'll take in as "confidante" is someone you can trust. risky, but it's the easier way to info-fish.

2. search him out on the www. do the google. visit all links. if google doesn't yield enough results, try yahoo, msn, and other search engines. look for his name on friendster, downelink, and other online "friendship" networks available on the net. at best, you'll be amazed by what you'll discover.

3. fish for information from the person himself. for torpedo geeks, this is a bit daunting, but if you're in talking terms with the person this style can have a two-birds-in-one-stone hit: 1) more or less, the info you get will be accurate, coming from the subject himself (unless it's, er, too personal to be divulged to just anyone, in which case he could choose to lie or not yield info at all); and 2) by chatting him up you're taking an active step towards the next "level", i.e. attempting to bond with the person. just take care not to come across as too...well, obvious, both in questioning and in your outward behavior (being in front of the apple-of-your-eye and all). at worst he might 1) think you're chismosa, mausisa, and/or presko; and/or 2)suspect that your interest in him and his biography is, well, rather unusual. if he doesn't react negatively to it, then outcome#2 might not be so bad at all. but, like so many things in this cold sad world, it's a risk to bare yourself.

so far, in this new but not-so-new stage i'm finding myself in, i've only tried Procedures# 1 and 2. and the results yield...

age: 27
status: in a relationship/s (one on a live-in basis, the other unspecified)
gender: it's complicated (haaaaay...eto na naman ako)
interests: acting, the internet, non-linear editing, taking photos, getting himself in photos, mtv-ish films, eating, chika, the limelight
about him: likes to wear house slippers to work, wears dentures, likes to eat and relieve himself after eating (sabi nila...hehe), alleged mama's boy, ex-choreographer, best buds with the male lead of one of those 90s loveteams, big brown and paunchy, unassumingly attractive in a loud, offbeat, incomprehensible way

sigh. i'm a scary little girl. really.

i should be thinking of heavier things but here i am, languishing in another state-of-madness, for the umpteen-hundredth time, since who-knows-when.

i'm worried about the film, actually. worried and bothered.